Where is your happy place?

December 3, 2015

I’ve not been feeling too good over the past week, hence no blog posts. I am surprised to realise that I missed creating the posts – especially given I have only done a few.

As I finally feel human again, I have returned to next writing prompt on the Live Your Legend blog challenge: What do people thank you for?

This has been a question I have traditionally struggled with, along with analysing what my passions, talents and strengths are. My mind always just went blank and I would feel that I’m not particularly good at or passionate about anything. Especially compared to all the amazing people you meet, read or hear about. It didn’t help that I always focused on what I couldn’t do and found it hard to listen to and accept praise.

Six months ago I made a conscious effort to take notice more of what I enjoyed, what was important to me and what people appreciated about me. This was to help me identify what I should focus on i.e. that which is at the overlap between what I enjoyed, what I am good at and what adds value to others. And thus find the answer to my continuing quest to find the perfect idea to leave work for (as per the pic below from The Happy Start Up School)

Simply noticing and consciously noting to myself what I have and haven’t enjoyed as well as feedback I have received has really helped. As has the less stress and more mental space I have had since leaving work a few weeks ago.

So what do people thank me for?  In no particular order these are what come to mind:

  • My curiosity: I tend to gather a wide range of information as lots of things interest me. I realise that I have lots of mini passions rather than one deep passion. This means I can point people in the direction of relevant innovations, people, services, products etc.
  • Problem solving abilities: I like to work things out and often find my self thinking about other people’s issues and how they could tackle them.
  • Accountancy/ financial skills: This is the most surprising discovery for me. I’ve always been some what ashamed of being an accountant. I don’t really fit in with that world and generally have different opinions than the stereotypical accountant. Unlike my peers, neither my partner nor the vast majority of my friends are from the accountancy (or closely connected) legal professions. Indeed the majority are ‘creatives’. Whilst working with start-ups and small businesses over the past year, I have discovered that my skills – when applied in the right way – are extremely useful to the entrepreneurs and indeed the creatives.
  • Ability to explain technical things in a non technical way – or otherwise known as “not acting or talking like an accountant”. The penny dropped on this whilst reading feedback from entrepreneurs. I particularly liked the “my accountant is like a headmistress and you’re normal”. To me it is key to understand why someone is scared of the numbers and what they are trying to do so you can help them “get it”. So maybe the not fitting in will go in my favour?
  • Challenging others – i like to let my inner toddler free and understand why the desired outcome is required or why that approach is the best. I thought this was being difficult until it was specifically praised by the 3rd boss in a row…

All in all I realised that a lot of the answers I was looking for about purpose, passion and how to make a difference have been right under my nose! How about you? What are the obvious things that you have underplayed that people value? What’s hiding in plain sight?

 

2 Comments

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    SJ

    I also have the ability to explain technical things in a non technical way! I believe that is something to cherish!
    I think it is better to know less and be able to communicate that to anyone, no matter their education, that be uptight about what you know.

    Keep going! And go easy on yourself. If you were ill, recover and then you will make up the loss time.

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      365experimental@gmail.com

      Thanks SJ for your kind words of encouragement. I’m trying to quieten my mind and listen to my body to help me ‘decompress’ from corporate life so I make the right decisions going forward. I’m finding it hard when I am used to getting a million things done at work and always having to respond quickly.

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